Letting go of someone who has been a part of your life is probably one of the most painful experience one could ever imagine. I believe we are never really ready to let go of someone we love or cherish so much, because before we finally do, we go through a process-not only once, but it could be a lot. We go through painful procedures; from weakening trials to getting weary of going through verbal, psychological, mental, emotional and sometimes physical battles. We keep fighting for that person or for the relationship or sometimes for the length of time being together; we are even blinded by the mistakes done to us, mistakes that were never corrected, mistakes that were never acknowledged; or/and more often than not, were thrown back at us. We swallow our pride for that person, until there is nothing left but the feeling of numbness.
Who among us have loved someone without sacrificing something or someone? Who among us skipped meal once or twice or more, waiting for his or her call? Who among us went through sleepless nights after an argument? Who among us slept on tear-soaked pillow and woke up with swollen eyes from crying ourselves to sleep? Who among us felt restless when we couldn't reach his or her mobile number? Who among us went through stress eating or not eating at all, after fighting over a football game or a movie? Who among us in one way or another, felt insecure after he or she tells us, “I think you are gaining weight”. Oh well, I am pretty sure that there are more to add to this list. My point is, letting go of someone is not the issue here; the issue here is letting go of someone who is supposedly making us feel good, who should be bringing us to cloud 9 and someone who is supposed to be the reason for our happiness. We don't let go of people who give us all the reasons to live; who bring out the best in us, do we? Like what I have said, we are never ready of letting go someone we love a lot; believe me or not, when you decide to let go of a person, it means that you love that person less or you have learnt to love yourself more.


We all have our own share of heartbreak and heartache and this does not only pertain to those who have let go of people that they had relationship or commitment with. We also let go of people we loved but did not love us back. We let go of someone who may just used to pass by our house. We may also have let go of someone who just used to sit across our seat in the library or school cafeteria. We may have let go of a boss we secretly fell in love with. We may have experienced letting go of someone who did not reciprocate the love we have given or shown, whether it was a stolen moment or not.
However, one day we wake up from the fantasy, that he or she may love us back, we realize that that person was never into us, we find out that he or she is actually in love with our best friend, we find out that he or she is taken. We find out that from the very beginning, it was like kissing the air-pointless. We get hurt and break down. We expected and somehow anticipated for that day when he or she finally loves us back. That expectation, that anticipation, gives us the reason to ache. So we try to escape from the prickly sensation in our heart, having nobody to blame but ourselves. That is what I meant; it is not the person that we are actually ready to let go of- it is the pain and the negative feelings he or she brings.
In the process, when we haven't yet learnt how to let go of the person, we usually cry quiet tears-yes, when we are in pain, when our heart is nothing but broken, we have nothing to do but cry all the tears until we are tired, until it has dried up everything that there is- or there was. We cry until we have nothing to breathe anymore. It is okay to cry. It is healthy for our souls to cry. “Tears” is like rain washing away the dirty air, washing away our sorrows and shattered hopes. It helps lighten the burden that our heavy heart is carrying. The tears we shed is a sign of slowly letting go. And then we are ready.
However, one day we wake up from the fantasy, that he or she may love us back, we realize that that person was never into us, we find out that he or she is actually in love with our best friend, we find out that he or she is taken. We find out that from the very beginning, it was like kissing the air-pointless. We get hurt and break down. We expected and somehow anticipated for that day when he or she finally loves us back. That expectation, that anticipation, gives us the reason to ache. So we try to escape from the prickly sensation in our heart, having nobody to blame but ourselves. That is what I meant; it is not the person that we are actually ready to let go of- it is the pain and the negative feelings he or she brings.



I compare the process of letting go or "the art of letting go" to an artist trying to work on an oil painting on canvas-very detailed, a lot of effort needed, and it takes a while before you finally see it's real essence and beauty.

"At last, it's over. I did it..."
J.Perfinan
“Think about any attachments that are depleting your emotional reserves. Consider letting them go.”- Oprah Winfrey
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